Well. X-amount of years later, she's realizing something kind of kooky and wonderful about her life, something that should probably have been obvious all along. Sure, maybe her obsession with curia and underdogs and gypsies and life's unobserved nooks and crannies stems from something good, some desire to explore and create...and maybe her desire to be different is really not that different, but rather a common symptom of humanity...but all this is beside the point. The fact is that without meaning to, our bespectacled heroine has followed her creative urges into the swampy land of Contrariety and let it become all about what's NOT for her, what she DOESN'T want. And this is not fair or brave or really honest. "I don't want 2.5 kids." "I don't want to vote for any of these guys." "I don't like pink." Okay, well...what DO you want, Miss Too-Cool?
You may have figured this out, but this bon vivant of vetoing to which I refer is...me. I've never seemed to have had a problem pointing out what I disagree with or what isn't perfect or what isn't as it should be. My mom could tell you that the eye-roll and the "death-stare" were my specialty. I've gloried in the revolution, the rebels, the devil's advocate. I own 4 - yes 4 - leather jackets, one for every flavor of outsider. Why does everything have to be contrary though, Jeanne Joe? What might happen if I spin the rhetoric, change the attitude? Take that same desire to create and explore and mix in bravery? Why is it so hard to admit, even to myself, that I want things? I don't want to not want things anymore. I want to be okay with the fact that I do want things.
It's not about what I don't want anymore. It's now about what I do want. The truth is that it was safer to play on the edges and shoot down what I don't want, but that's taking the easy way out. See, if I admit that I actually want something, that makes me vulnerable. It means I stand the risk of not getting whatever that thing is that I want. Or worse - getting it! You can't be disappointed if you don't hope. Your heart can't break if it doesn't first skip a beat in excitement. My Dad hates that word, hope; he always says, "Hope is not a strategy." He's right. It's not. But, it can be a source of inspiration. Inspiration fuels of strategy.
"Without vision, the people parish." I want to be brave enough to wear my heart on my sleeve instead of hiding it behind my wits. Perhaps nothing earth-shattering will happen at first, but rather than continue to play it cool, I'm going to let myself make a fool out of myself with yearning. Yearning, wanting, admitting, and celebrating my frail human appetite for wanting things. Probably no Greek mythological figures will appear to wave a scepter and grant my wishes. But, something magical might happen. If I can actually admit to myself (and the world) what I DO want, that might be the first step towards achieving it.
So, I've made a decision. I will keep my love for the obscure and the strange, but no longer will I put down other loves. I will probably stay quirky, but I will do it in the light instead of the dark and stop shrugging off the truth of what's behind my pangs of desire. I will own up to what I want and not be ashamed to go for it. I will be positive, and form my vision for my life out of "yes" instead of "no." What I am about to say is scary for me, but I think it will be fun. This is not an exhaustive list but rather the highlight reel, if you will. My mom would say, "Go for it!" I hope to look back at this entry in a year's time and see track marks from this moment leading in the direction of these things that I want. Here are some:
- dance an actual tango
- get married and have kids (this is hard for me to admit for some reason, but I really, really do want it.)
- adopt kids
- be on 30 Rock!
- ride the Orient Express...it's still there, right? Probably called something less racist now.
- take my mom and dad to the Oscars!
- learn Spanish
- visit a rain forest
- study at RADA
- act in feature films
- portray a vampire...dead serious (get it!?!)
- be British (pretty sure this one won't happen for me, unless I can---)
- invent time travel and alter the past
- direct a movie
- start a production company (oh wait, check!)
- publish a book
I want to not want to not want things anymore. ;)